Speaking of being a slave to appreciation, this morning had me leaping out of bed at 8:10am and race to the milkbar (before an 8:30 online class), I prayed would be open with nothing in my wallet (I had to scrounge for loose change around my house) for milk.

It seems I have a love-affair with Earl Grey.

I got home, triumphant and successful and found out that the last Earl Grey tea bag had run out so I’m stuck here drinking Irish Breakfast.

It’s such a hard life!

Coffee Life

Let me be really rude and plug something I wrote a year or so ago – just in case it is helpful to anyone. Contextually, this was written for a disscusion board type of online community. I don’t get enough comments to really have to apply it to this blog but I might do to keep things in mind. Oh, and I never did finish The Purpose Driven Life.

How can we make an online community work?

In the lead up to this new Gush I’ve been thinking about online community and how that should operate.

I happened to pick up the “Purpose Driven Life” by Rick Warren. Chapter 19 talks about cultivating community, which believe is something intrinsic to living life as a Christian in light of a Trinitarian, relational God.

Warren outlines nine characteristics of Biblical fellowship:

Authenticity – sharing true feelings
Mutuality – encourage each other
Sympathy – support each other
Mercy – forgive each other
Honesty – speak the truth in love
Humility – admit our weaknesses
Courtesy – respect our differences
Confidentiality – not gossip
Frequency – make group a priority

It’s difficult to translate literally across into an online setting as it’s such a left field thing to do. Authenticity for example must come with some kind of restraint in regards to safety of the user, humility is different in light of a wide audience and frequency may be valued or it simply be another means of procrastination.

Might I suggest the following – nine similar characteristics with an online slant aimed at active forum users. Which means you!

Realness – I’m myself, I share the faith-life questions that I’m coming across in my own life in order to open discussion so that I and the wider group of forum users can benefit. I am only open in giving examples to the extent to which I am comfortable. No one can force me to share anything, however if shared, it shall be treated according to the other characteristics below.

Encouragement – I can expect to find support from other users, but this also means that I will actively seek outside ‘offline’ encouragement where possible as I acknowledge that people online can only offer ‘so’ much from their distant position. (See Matt 25:44-45; 1 Cor 12:4-7)

Understanding – If you happen to be willing to share something it will be treated with respect, users will do their utmost to offer support by means of biblical/experiential advice or sharing of similar experiences, yet you should be seeking offline relationships as they far surpass the online. This is also a good place to ask that you be wary of offloading everything onto one person (a common thing on msn), it’s okay to share but each must to an extent carry their own burden. (See Gal 6:1-5)

Patience – tempers and differences flair on forums, we all know that. It’s great to have a lively discussion yet when it reaches the point of smashing someone’s opinion into the ground that’s not acceptable, work through differences in a mature manner even if you are on the ‘receiving end’ of the hurtful comments. Bring unresolved or difficult to resolve conflict to the forum leaders. (See 1 Cor 13; James 1:19-21: 1 Peter 3:8-9)

Tact – gently correct, you’ll never win someone over by pushing a personal opinion onto them, biblical backing is the best way to present a ‘Christian Perspective’, this isn’t to say you can’t present your own but be prepared to listen to those who have sought God and his word on the issue. (See 2 Tim 4:1-5, Matt 18:15-17)

Humility – be ready to own up to where you might have over stepped the line, better still, don’t overstep it in the first place! Treat other users with respect. (See Phil 2:1-4)

Respect – a big one in the online world! Respect differences. Read the posts before you thoroughly before condemning their opinion give them a fair go, clarify what you think they are saying if you are unsure. (See Proverbs 18:13)

Confidentiality – the reality is that an open forum is not a place for confidentiality, yet this is still imperative when the issue is not your own, ask before sharing that ‘other persons’ story, mentioning names etc if they say no, don’t share it.

Frequency – This is totally up to you, I think it’s great if you can positively contribute regularly, however this is online, and just a tiny fraction of life. This is not a typical community. We’d love to ‘get to know you’ but you are free to come and go as you please, you are not bound in any way to stay. (See Acts 2:42-47; Heb 10:25)

Finally, if you could prayerfully consider your participation in the new boards and keep the discussion going around the kind of community you want to see happen that would be great.

I’m looking forward to seeing what comes of this and what God has in store for us!


Blogging Ministry Relationships

my-mind-is-troubling-me.jpgA beautiful day (yesterday) was dampened momentarily when a guy who was quite drunk decided to sit next to me on the train. It was the middle of the day, the guy was drinking  quite consistently and only hid his bottle when the ticket inspectors came around. It was one of those slightly awkward situations where you don’t know whether to move or not – true it has put you slightly on edge and that’s a bit of a bummer because you were very much enjoying the sun, but you still want to be friendly (or in the least, inoffensive) – there are some things you just leave alone when you’re a girl by herself on public transport.

Anyway, the long and short of it was that I decided that I’d stay where I was, there were enough others on the train and he was rambling outloud quite interestingly.

“You are a slave unless you are extremely wealthy.”

“I’m only drunk because I like being drunk”

“Today I am NOT a slave!”

“We are all slaves.”

I was thinking a bit about the whole slave and free thing in the Bible – you get your typical passages along with plenty of others.

A very small bite of 2 Peter 2 (a part of the Bible I never seem to get around reading):

They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of depravity—for a man is a slave to whatever has mastered him. ” (v.19)


“I’m only drunk because I like being drunk.”

As irrational as being drunk makes you, this statement is interesting.

We often declare responsibility for our actions as a pretense for something that we truthfully cave to. It looks OK externally. We show the world our ‘in moderation’ but in all honesty we are being run by our addiction , or our ‘interests’, our ‘I’m just being helpful’, or, ‘They can’t cope without me’.

“I’m only doing it because I want to.”

We refuse to acknowledge outloud and sometimes even to ourselves that there is something else deeper that is driving us.

We are slaves to what has mastered or is trying to master us. We need to recognise what that is.

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery… You were running a good race. Who cut in on you and kept you from obeying the truth? That kind of persuasion does not come from the one who calls you. “A little yeast works through the whole batch of dough.” (Gal 5:1,7-9)

It’s good to be aware.

Christianity On The Train

spring-web.jpgToday is for flinging open doors. The weather has taken a drastic improve which reflects on all the but the nastiest of predispositions. Amazing what a bit of sun can do. It’s honestly just nice to open up the house a bit so it smells ‘new’ again.

On the whole smelling new thing, yesterday marked the arrival of the new pastor. I’ve had the pleasure of meeting Kevin and his wife Kerrie several times before due to convenient link-ins and am pretty excited for what this next stage holds. It’s been a bit of a wait – Rob and Di have done a great job of pulling things over.

Speaking with a couple of friends yesterday post-Sunday morning, we decided that something felt decidedly different. A good different.

Newness doesn’t just come as something fresh, but when something ends.

This Wednesday will mark the celebratory conclusion of my young-adults homegroup. It’s been a crazy journey with the group starting on the highest of highs (Happy Birthday Washington) and keeping at a consistent peak until somewhere things went vaguely haywire and changes of individuals and relational issues crept in. We are disbanding our structure and holding to our relationships. It would be a lie to say it hasn’t been fairly crap for a good part of it, but we’ve learnt lots, stormed, conformed, made war, peace, learnt of commitment. We’ve taken two, about five times over to try ‘fix’ things and now at a seemingly more stable state have declared it’s death so that we can somewhere find growth and love again.

I am finding quite a bit of a freedom in the fact that I no longer have to drag my heels along each Wednesday. There is something to be said for commitment and a time where it surpasses common sense. In hindsight I should have prayed about it more and asked God what the naff he wanted me to do.

Geoff and I had already been considering a move in the near future due to the rather drastic change of life that marriage inflicts.

Timing it seems is God’s immaculate zing. Monday has opened up a new possibility. We have met with a crew, (Not associated with Vineyard – but of some friends and some strangers – a little further along in life) once so far and it was a slow moving cart that picked up momentum into something quite delightful.

I like what is new.

image from Tony

Church Life

wel055.jpgYesterday evening on the train home I got the idea in my head that I really wanted lasagna. I could’ve gone the stodgy store bought way, but instead I remembered (rightly) that lasagna packets have the recipe on the back. So I made it as they said, leaving out some of the chicken stock and nutmeg.

It was good and satisfying and successful, but it took far too long for an after-work dinner and cost too much (even if I did share with Paul and Geoff). Next time I’ll make mum’s version because it’s just that bit nicer, or Anne’s vego version, or add a bit more cheese sauce – there wasn’t quite enough for my liking.

I’d go vegetarian if it wasn’t for meat lasagna, pasta, roasts, pies, stew, curry…

Cooking Out of Home