Category: <span>Personality</span>

Being present is something I struggle with. My inner world is like the Narnia to my England. I spend a lot of time in my head. This is part of my personality yes, but it is not always particularly healthy. With my relationships with others and in becoming a parent – being present is vital. All hail to my abstract reality because here is my wandering attention to the physical one. Last night I read this article: ‘Daily Rhythm at Home and it’s Lifelong Relevance‘.  I am encouraged to continue to pursue being present.

Rather than highlighting where I am not being present (hola, look at my life). Where I am already being present?

In breastfeeding Claire. I literally cannot do anything else. No that’s not quite true. I can play on my phone, there’s a whole external inner reality in the internet. But many times I cannot play on my phone and I certainly can no longer watch anything while I feed her or she doesn’t feed. I found this one of the hardest things in having a baby. I like to be busy and to get things done even if it is relevant to collating ideas etc. but I had to stop. I don’t always do this terribly well, but it is an enforced stop where I can – if I’m in a reasonable place use it to be present to what is going on. My life is richer for it.

Behind the camera. Oddly I am more present when I have a camera lens to my face – when I’m shooting a wedding. Perhaps it is the necessity to be finely tuned in to what is going on, to be attentive to the moments so as not to miss them. It teaches me to be observant and to be there in the moment.

I will keep looking out for places I am most present so as to continue to cultivate this stillness. There is joy hiding.

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Life has beautiful ebbs and flows. Right now it is raining and to appease my insatiable appetite for the slightly odd. I am wearing a shortish blue dress with brown knee high socks, a brown cardy, the marvelous red heart (a bit like this one), the favourite beret and have a whopping great big cup of tea. It feels nice.

Life feels nice. It feels nice when there is this ebb between the mass of busy. It feels nice when summer appears in Autumn to apologise for it’s absence. It feels nice taking one of my old youth group girls to lunch and discovering shared loves of oppshops and nerdiness. It feels nice to make the kitchen area interesting with a cabinet of old cameras. It feels nice to be throwing a party for my 25th and to be going to the opera with the twin this week to celebrate the same.

I like little things. It’s scary when you recognise how much of these are a privilege. My one’ness often gets in the way of enjoying such things, it sits whistling in the back corner holding a balloon that says ‘right the wrong’, waving little flag that says ‘guilt’. But for now today I’ll drink my cup of tea, wear my peculiar clothes and design my birthday invite.

I am off facebook for lent.

What are your little things?

Image Source: ‘Island” by Naked Pastor, was a bit peeved it sold before I could get to it. A print would be lovely.

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So here I am drinking tea and thinking about my INTJ’ness.

I am drinking tea because it seems to me to be a kind of cure-all. The real cure-all for an INTJ however is not tea, it is getting things done. And the source of angst for an INTJ is, not surprisingly, the inverse.

After a rather extended period of ‘angsty inverseness’, I put the kettle on, washed all the dirty cups in the short time it took for the water to boil, found the list I made early this week and crossed off the things I’d done. I then made a cup of tea. 15 things on the list, four left. Not bad considering this list does not have a particular end date. Things feel better.

I can verify that the following statements match whatever strain of the INTJ I happen to have in relation to stress and stressful things.

“A large number of INTJ folks reported that they often felt a strong desire to clean when under stress”

“If they do not take a project to completion, they may set themselves up for frustration and depression resulting from too much self-criticism.”

“They become frustrated if they are too tightly controlled.”

There is also an excellent description of INTJ’s on Urban Semiotic

Personality Page gives a good general overview of INTJ’s they also, naturally, give overviews of the other types.

And because only 2% or so of the population happen to be INTJ’s the you can take the test (Jung/Myers-Briggs) along with a stack of other interesting personality tests over here at Similar Minds. But only after you’ve made yourself a cup of tea.

Life Personality

rainerThis blog covers daily routines… of famous (and perhaps not so famous people). Very interesting and just a little random.

Daily Routines

I love quirky writings. About a month ago I bought: Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke (Who is a guy btw). It is splendid. I will share some next time I get to reading it.

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I think this guy is cool.

The Age talks about him bringing his entrepreneurial not for profit into a school. I really, really like it when people approach things differently.

A bit of a personal challenge there, I go with the flow when it suits and totally snoff it off when it doesn’t. How typically Rebecca.

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