I was glad this morning to have something that always confused me just slighty clarified. Blessing. Particularly when people/songs say: I will bless you God.
I think that I have always seen it as something you impart on someone. As humans, I could not understand how we could â€˜bless Godâ€™, a role reversal was the tune playing in my mind.
Anyway, the sermon this morning amongst other things talked about blessing and how in Hebrew or something it means to bow the knee/put value on/honor etcâ€¦ So that cleared that all up and I donâ€™t have to shut my mouth when those parts in various songs are sung. I really should have sorted that out ages ago.
Last night after coming home from Jessâ€™s I had a massively long talk to God. I donâ€™t know how clear it has been or how much I have said about how Iâ€™ve been struggling to do the â€˜God thingâ€™ specifically lately.
I mean I seem to start my day all fine â€“ Iâ€™ll be sitting on the bus or whatever and be talking to God and be just happy for no particular reason, but I get home and then I get massively distracted and fed up and then frustrated at any number of things, find myself online and get even more annoyed at how Iâ€™ve forgotten â€“ by which time Iâ€™m too tired. Sounds like a lot of excuses? Yes, they are excuses; bad ones, and I have fallen out of what were good habits into bad ones.
I guess I talked to God about all those things that were crowding other stuff out. This blog does get in the way sometimes you know (no Iâ€™m not going to stop) but I dropped journals a while ago as it took too much energy to do both. The journals were a little more God focused, a better testimony to where he was working in my life â€“ as I sat down and I prayed and I thought about what he was doing and is doing. Journals are private and so your freedom is less shackled.
What else has been crowding God out? Tiredness, the â€˜needâ€™ to talk to people â€“ and honestly my conversations with others have been predominantly less rich. It seems as if you lean on God less, you find yourself less expected to give out as much and naturally, you are the only one that notices. I like helping people, I find it rewarding/fulfiling often – difficult but pushes me more to God and thats a good thing, it’s a catch twenty two when it isn’t happening.
And the biggest thing? The future, for which individual does it not affect? I have long given up being worried about what career path Iâ€™ll follow or what job Iâ€™ll have after uni. I have been far too focused in on well, whom Iâ€™ll spend that future with. It is not as if Iâ€™ve really had a specific person in mind, but the concept makes impossible castles in my mind. I have a huge difficulty and at the same time it is so simple in placing Rebecca how ever many years ahead.
There is nothing wrong with wanting, but when the majority of your thoughts fly into that arena and God watermarks into the background then something is horribly wrong. Frustrations start staring you in the face and disatisfaction again becomes your friend.
John 15 talks about remaining in the vine. It was bought up today, and I remembered all the numerous occasions this came up last year. How extremely vital is water to the earth? How necessary are the roots to a plant? How easy it is to ignore the source.
Psalm 1:3 talks about a tree that fruit grows on during a particular season. The word season was red traffic light to meâ€“ for future reference maybe? I am an impatient person, I like to see results, I like to see where things are going, how things are working out so I can plan the next step.
I somehow think this is a bit the same with my wanting what I cannot have right now. I cannot for any logical purpose sit here and want, want, want. Singleness is almost definitely not my ideal (is it anyones?). But honing in on possibilities and dreams and ignoring what God is doing right now, or could be doing if I actually let him is frankly quite stupid.
I have been sidelining God. I have not entirely ignored him, but I havenâ€™t acknowledged him in the way I should be doing. I definitely havenâ€™t been putting him first (only first, at first and then I forget).
I think things would be quite simple if I cut myself in half â€“ start of the day Rebecca and end of the day Rebecca. If I take the first Iâ€™d be doing alright. But I am a whole and have to catch the other half back up with the front.
A different take on â€œGuard your heartâ€¦â€ (Proverbs 4:23) â€“ because out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks (Luke 6:45).
Maybe it is a bit of a wake up call to stop talking/thinking about relationships so much, and start living one with the one who made them in the first place.
Singleness is where I am at at the momement, it’s not as you said Jess, “A horrible curse”. It is a different season, maybe not so fair as the others we can imagine, but as fair, as good in different ways as those other realities.
Don’t think I have figured out what is so good about it, beacause I haven’t. If singleness is a place where we can be less distracted, I haven’t been living up to that at all. I am, if not more distracted by what I cannot have.
Which fronts an interesting question. What places can we sit in as a single person? Content? Maybe never – those ‘needs’ always are at the back of your mind somewhere. But in full acknowledgement and in full appreciation of my maker and what he has for me at this time as opposed to discontent, and living three steps ahead with all the distractions that aren’t supposed to come with what Paul talks about. Can you live as a single, not in proper response or full truth to your status?
Each one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called him. Were you a slave when you were called? Don’t let it trouble youâ€”although if you can gain your freedom, do so. For he who was a slave when he was called by the Lord is the Lord’s freedman; similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ’s slave. You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men. Brothers, each man, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation God called him to. – 1 Corinthians 7:20-24
It is easy to get stuck into something, a thought pattern, or a fixation on someone or an idea or… you name it.
What I mean, brothers, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they had none; those who mourn, as if they did not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it were not theirs to keep; those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away. – 1 Cor 7:29-31
I have no idea who one day will become a big part of my life. I shouldn’t though be stuck on an idea so much so that it becomes consuming, engrossing, difficult, frustrating, factinating and blinding.
Engrossing whatevers don’t suddenly come, things don’t materialise before your eyes. It is like that frog that is in the pot of water slowly heating up. You don’t realise until suddenly you work out something’s wrong.
I don’t think that I was in extremely hot water but I am fairly sure that God got to me before everything was so crowded and messy and distracting that it was all consuming.
Being half in a good spot, is nowhere close being all in a good spot. I want that all.
Great post Bec!
I agree with you, I don’t think that we will ever truely be contented with being a single in this life. After all, those desires were planted within us before evil came to be, in the garden, long before serpents sowed their wicked seeds.
I’m glad that your not viewing it as being a ‘horrible curse’ because it definitely isn’t, it’s just different, not always lovely, but worth knowing. I guess we would never appreciate the companionship untill we realise the difference it makes. And thats not even mentioning the wealth of being contented in self and Christ.
The funny thing about it is that it’s one of those things where when your trying not to think about it, it ends up being all that you can think about.
I heard a great quote at church today, which you might appreciate; “Whatever you magnify, it’s going to get bigger.”
I guess what I’m trying to do now, is shift my focus. I know that if I try to convince myself to not think about it, then I will. So instead I’m using the strategy of whenever it pops into my head, then if my bibles handy I’ll grab it and read, or I’ll pop a prayer to big dude and have a chat instead. My hope is that eventually those things will just happen naturally without me even thinking so much about being single, rather I get into the habit of shoving my thoughts in a nother direction. Giving God more time in my day, wasting less time worrying about the things God’s made pretty obvious he doesn’t want me worrying about.
Sorry girl, I just realised how long my little ramble has gone for.
Be blessed big time. I love your mind Bec.
i agree jess. lovely blog bec!
how strange it is to find out something more about the workings of your mind bec. maybe its becuase your not so openly guy obessed that i seem to forget that you may be wanting relationship too… so sorry about that.
“I have been sidelining God. I have not entirely ignored him, but I havenâ€™t acknowledged him in the way I should be doing. I definitely havenâ€™t been putting him first (only first, at first and then I forget).” i like that bit. 🙂