Game of expectancy

Ah it’s curious how you come across things that are oh-so-relevant.

“John Bevere says that expectations are the breeding ground for an offense. I think this is true. When someone does not meet our expectations we build a case in our minds based on our disappointment in them. Sometimes our expectations are unspoken and our offenses are also unspoken. Well, we might tell others how someone let us down but we don’t often talk to the person. But, if and when we do, we let them know how disappointed we are in them and how they let us down. Perhaps this game of expectations is really about us and not about what the other person did. Thus needing to look inside before telling others or that person how disappointed we are…” (Lori Boucher)

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How true this is.

(now… who can I MAKE read this?)

and in the meantime, YES PLEASE…


  1. said:

    It’s funny that I should see a reference to John Bevere here… especially in relation to offense.

    As that’s the exact course we’re currently doing in our small group.

    November 22, 2006
  2. said:

    Glad I found your blog, really like it. I appreciated Lori’s post on offense as well. I thought she very helpfully pointed to how we need to look at what within us is the catalyst for offense, rather than always starting off by blaming others.

    Thanks for linking to my post by the way!

    November 23, 2006
  3. said:

    thanks John! I’ve been keeping an eye on yours for a while now.

    November 23, 2006
  4. said:

    Cool, I didn’t know. Well I guess that means “tag, your it!” You have to comment now 🙂

    November 23, 2006

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