Mothers and Mentors

After posting my ‘camp extravaganza’ I realised I’d missed something.

Sunday morning the guys and girls split up. We got inside and the couches. Roz and Evie lead the ‘stuff’. We started off talking about friendships and Roz read excerpts from a book called, “Big Girls Don’t Whine” which is one I’ve had half an eye on for some time. Now I have to (that’s compulsory) go and get myself a copy. Then we talked about mums and sisters – which was strange for both Laura and myself seeing as we are eachothers, and share one. I confess we ‘dragged’ happily along for far longer than the guys needed to and spent several hours going over all this stuff.

As someone pointed out, we never talk about mums/mothers. We mention fathers all the time but it seems mothers slip off the radar and are probably more of a reckoning force than most of us would like to admit. There was a huge benefit to having Laura there in that we worked out that we have some similar attitudes towards our mum. Closeness – as in the tight friendship thing is something that I don’t have any desire for with her, which as Sam said, is, “a bit sad” but that’s the way it is. And in seeing where she is with God (oh I know she does love God immensely) but she’s not that clear cut and so I haven’t the role model so to speak in that area. I can put myself and I need to put myself in a place where I am working on improving the relationship and see what happens, I guess as long as I am stepping in the right direction…

The topic of mentors has come up lately. Laura, oddly enough has our Grandma as her mentor. I haven’t really got anyone. I had Renee (sort of) for a little while, but it didn’t quite work as it should with distance as an issue. I genuinely want a mentor, I can see the huge value in it, but something in me still wonders how it would work. I honestly don’t know what I’d talk to ‘her’ about. My words have a far grander time of making it from my head to paper then they do from head to mouth. Apparently you can go and chat to Kathy (Pete’s wife) and she’ll find you someone – an older godly woman from the church asap. I need a bit more of a push and shove before I do this… how would it work with someone you don’t know? I’m tempted to talk to Evie about it, she’s what, 26 – still not sure though – might be better to just keep her as a friend.

I guess I shall have to continue and uh, maybe even start praying about it.