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Yes - this is the real deal! As seen on Bec’s finger

“Kat and I got talking about blogging, she said a certain other person (present) blogs and asked for mine, which I was perfectly happy to give her. Anyway, we drifted up the road to Macca’s after and I was talking to him about it (blogging) note: I did not ask for his blog-address.Tonight when I got home I did something extremely stupid. “Google is your friend” All the time I was telling myself, “Don’t you dare Rebecca! You wouldn’t like it, don’t do it!” and I went and found it. Now I feel traitorous and rather bad and so will have to get to him asap to apologise. I am quite embarassed actually. I shall not read it until I get permission and I certainly don’t deserve it. It was very stupid and I rather regret it, because despite not really knowing him all that well I have a lot of respect for him. Stupid, stupid”

– Taken from “Departing markedly from the usual or customary; extreme

The above excerpt comes from Rebecca’s post on the 26th of April 2006, notable not only for being just barely less than a year ago, but also for what it represents. A beginning. A brief flirtation. Just a very little thing. Not much at all really. The sort of little thing that could easily just get dismissed and forgotten. But it wasn’t.

Yesterday, Sunday the 22nd of April, I started the day with the express purpose of proposing to my dearest Rebecca. I, in this case and unlike any other post currently found on this blog, refers to me Geoff. Given that Bec’s allowing me to write this as a guest poster, (and given the picture in the top left handside) you probably already can guess what the ending looks like in this story. But allow me a little indulgence as I relate to you my best attempt at retelling the story. After all – I did just get engaged: it’s the least you can do.

The day began with a building a little anticipation (albeit a little unintentionally) with a quick phone call to (the very beautiful) Rebecca before she headed off to church: requiring that she bring with her a warm jumper, the camera and comfortable walking shoes on her feet. Suffice to say this may have aroused some suspicion.

Having held on through a ripper sermon from visiting preacher (and Tabor classmate) Gordon Lingard: ironically on “What do we do in the meantime?”, we headed off for lunch. I drove Rebecca to “The Stonehouse”, the place where we shared our first date many moons ago. It’s fair to say that any doubts Bec might have had regarding my purpose for the remainder of the day were well and truly put to rest when she found out we were having lunch there. So we shared a wonderful time of chatting and laughing and nervousness (although ironically less nervousness than the first time we were there).

Once we had eaten, it was time for us to head off for the afternoon’s main outing. After taking a detour through some Lilydale-ian side-streets, we made our way to Steavenson’s Falls, where we had spent a day previously. As we parked the car I had very sneakily placed my car key behind the front wheel, but once we realised that we’d left the camera in the car, my sneakiness quickly became sheepishness.

After a cursory glance or fifty at the waterfall (which for anyone thinking about heading up there, is no longer being lit of an evening due to low water levels), we headed off on the 4km walk to Keppels Lookout. The walk is remarkably steep for the first kilometre, but once you reach “De La Rue Lookout” the hard work is done. So after a joke or two about making her work for it; it was a lovely time of just really enjoying each other’s company and the beautiful views.

Once we eventually arrived at Keppels, we ended up needing to wait about 20 minutes for Anita, Mark, Stu and Robyn (my brother and sister and their respective partners) to arrive. It’s probably worth mentioning that this was entirely due to a piece of poor direction-writing by myself (don’t trust Google Maps). Once the two cars arrived (you might have guessed, as Bec did, that we weren’t going to be doing the walk back, thus the car key thing), we were quickly and sensitively hugged then shunted into the car to wait while they set up. Unfortunately our intrepid helpers had to carefully shoo away a lovely tourist couple.

So we sat in the car and the realisation came that this was all about to happen. Suffice to say that after I was asked to choose a song for Bec (“Green Eyes” by Coldplay – can’t go wrong), we both shed a few tears and had a bit of a pray. It was a very beautiful moment, both being keenly aware of what was about to happen. About 10 minutes later, we were ready to get the show on the road.

Mark, Anita, Stu and Robyn had brought the stew (yes, that stew) which I’d made the day before and Stuart had intelligently thought to bring a camping stove so that our stew could be beautiful and warm. They’d set out a rug for us to sit on, candles, champagne (from Ringwood Jewellers – the best engagement ring sellers I’ve ever bought from!) and very selflessly left me to do the rest.

There was a brief moment of excitement as I half opened the champagne bottle, only to get distracted by the stew on the stove and then suddenly heard a “BOOM” as the cork left it’s pressurised confines and made its way skyward. That broke a little of the tension and lost us a little of the champagne, but once that was dealt with and the stew served, we sat down to eat and enjoyed a lovely stew (even if the dumplings were a little dense).

Once the main course had finished, I snuck the ring box out of the plastic mug it was sitting in, and asked Bec to sit up on the bench. She – looking inexplicably oblivious – obliged. I got down on one knee, gave my spiel (again with a couple of tears) and asked Rebecca to marry me. She said “yes”! We hugged for quite a while, both a little bit giggly, and then I slid the engagement ring on her finger (after panicking internally because I momentarily couldn’t work out which was her left hand).

We had our dessert (Creme Caramel that was just a little more runny than I might have liked), and packed up our things. We were engaged! We still are!!

After the most excitable car trip I can ever remember, we arrived back to my house and both of the families together shared some more champagne, and told the whole story from start to finish (much like you have just read). If you’ve managed to make it this far, congratulations. If you feel like reading what actually happened, you’ll have to read the post being published simultaneously by Rebecca over at TheGeoffRe(y)port.

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Tonight spelt out my first evening as part of Vocare – which I believe I have mentioned quite a while back but really not explained.

To cut things short, a small group of us ‘young ones’ are paired with a small group of some ‘older ones’ and we meet every two months over a meal to discuss life and spirituality and “radical discipleship” and the stuff below.

In a nutshell the ‘rules’ if you think Monk style:

1. A commitment to Stewardship

A commitment to explore with others, what it means to bring your lifestyle and career choices under the Lordship of Jesus Christ.

2. A commitment to Reflective Spirituality

A weekly commitment to pray for 20 minutes, reflecting on the Prayer of St Francis, the Gospel of Luke, and practicing silent contemplation.

3. A commitment to Active Spirituality

A commitment to participate in an act of public witness to ‘God’s kingdom and his justice’. (Matthew 6:33) every two months.

A commitment to one communal act of public witness to ‘God’s kingdom and his justice’, for the year.

4. A commitment to Gatherings

A commitment to gather together for a shared meal, conversation and learning, once every two months.

5. A commitment to Learning

A commitment to spend some time with a mentor to share learning, once every two months.

A big call? In some ways yes, in others the time commitment and the actuality of it all shouldn’t be hard – I was thinking about it and this should be stuff I am already doing. All the better if I have something to ‘make’ me and people to spur me on.

You will be able to follow the Luke passages we’re collectively going through as I’m fairly sure they’ll be posted on the Advoc8 blog, no doubt I will probably share my thoughts as I think best into words.

What was interesting was that we did talk about rules and the negativity surrounding the word. We established that a rule is much more about a being a corrective than something that boxes you in. It is what you can align yourself with -in this case some discipline into living – and I intend to use it for such.

My ‘mentor’ didn’t happen to be present so that’ll be a whole new thing when I get there.

Please, cheer me on, join with me in as much as you can, share your insights on the Luke passages via Advoc8/here and take a further look at the Prayer of St Francis as it is quite a powerful piece of work. Also if you have ever been involved in something of the sort and/or ‘The Common… (erm something that I’ve forgotten – prayer?)’ I’d love to hear of your experience.

I am quite excited.

While on the subject of rules, John Smulo has been taking a look at the ‘golden rule’ (Which my feed-reader only just picked up), it’s interesting.

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Help this guy out by taking the survey, you might even win an Ipod Shuffle!

I’ve also linked to this article before, but have a read of The Master Humbler.

In answering the blogging questions, I acknowledged that the original reason why I started blogging was to challenge myself to be more vulnerable/open in an (at first) non confronting way. That of course has developed and evolved through my two years online and is probably now only partially the reason why I am still here.

I’ve also just been listening to a sermon on Psalm 139. Intimacy before God and others. Risking the ‘deeper’ conversations, confrontations and challenges.

If you don’t blog (or even if you do) what ways do you or should you challenge yourself in being more open? Do you even think it is necessary? What do you gain by being a little bit ‘out there’ with what’s really going on? What do you lose?

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barefoot_beach_index.jpgThey are dropping like flies… in the nicest possible way.

Yesterday I got to enjoy watching a couple from school finally get married. It was a very nice but very pink ceremony. Old school friends were everywhere. The same day, Naomi (another friend from school) announced her engagement to Dan.

Tonight one of my cousins is having his engagement party. So, that’s Nic and Deb.

Next Weekend I’m heading up to Canberra for one of Geoff’s cousin’s weddings, only to come back for James’ and Kylie’s engagement party.

Oh yes, and Monica’s getting married in February. She has a pretty inspiring story (it may be written down somewhere – I’ll see if I can find out) and although extremely difficult, in many ways I am glad to have been a little part of it. I initially ‘met’ her through Gush. She supports me consistently in prayer – not bad for someone I’ve never met in person. I admire her immensely.

If you ever need a photographer, go and check out my friend James’ work, he is very good.

*and ten minutes later I walk into the lounge room and Hannah shows me some photos of Carolyn and Chris’ wedding.

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readNow that I’ve entirely freaked out my sister, my parents and my boyfriend with the post title…

Problogger’s latest competition: Reviews and Predictions (and my first entry might I add) has gotten me thinking.

This year was in comparison to last year a rather large flop on quite a few levels – in others well, it won out. I grew up A LOT possibly just through life experience/time/uni, a nice boy appeared on the scene making the good later part of the year well, very good, and I worked out just what I don’t want to be doing with myself for the rest of my life, which does come in handy.

So in looking forward, how might I hope to compare this year with the fast approaching next (or doesn’t tomorrow ever really come?)…

Uni – I started the course that I deferred in favor of Arts/Health – both at the reputable(?) Deakin University. Unfortunately I caught the Bachelor of Interactive Media in it’s infancy – it’s second year and quite obviously it hasn’t quite found it’s feet. I also discovered that the second year of the course draws students heavily into animation, which is a field of torture that I am not willing to put myself through.

What I am doing about this: Complaints with a fellow student led to an application through VTAC and expensive (bah!) folio preparations and over-stress into production resulting in an interview and acceptance into the Bachelor of Communication Design at Swinburne University for 2007.

The Job – I worked in a franchise-bookstore for the first 6 months of the year. It began well and ended in unshed tears. It became a frustrating working environment. I didn’t feel as if I were doing anything useful and came to the conclusion that I really didn’t want to be there – stuck it out for a painful 2 more months and then decided I was being silly and if I was so not-happy I should resign and move on to something that would at least be a little more directional in relation to uni/future career. A good part of my problem was the brilliant 2005 job which paled anything that followed.

What I am doing about this: I’ve ended up working from home with my mum selling kids books/textbooks on eBay. This brings in enough to pay the petrol with a little to spare but doesn’t allow for moving out. I will being job hunting in the New Year. With a resume of 1 years Reception/Admin/Office-girl and 6mths Retail amongst other little things. This is still a daunting task possibly due to my high ideals. I’d love a job where I feel somewhat challenged and get to learn stuff (which is why MBO was so good) and still not fell patronised. I might have to get over myself and settle for stacking shelves, anything to bring in the dough. Why?…

Living at Home – As much as I love my family, there has been the continuing and strengthening desire to move out. I really want out. I like my freedom, I always have. I like non-interference, I like trying new things. I’ve wanted to for a long time now and I’m eternally getting sidetracked about it, money continues to be an issue.

What I am doing about this: The laying of grand plans. I have teed up with a friend of mine, Analise, to aim to be ‘out’ by March 2007. House-sharing with her and/or some others. This means getting a job. Scouring the house my Grandparents are selling for furniture and praying like mad something nearish a train-line out this way comes along.

The Boy Read all about him here. He happened along in July. Bit of a new experience for me and it’s been a fun/challenging ride. I like him even more now than at first! 😛

What I am doing about this: Clearly I intend to keep him around. For those whose speculations lie in setting a date (Ross! Not that you even really read this) it’s still earlyish days and there are Rebecca self-made stipulations (ie: must be at least 21) – please don’t remind me that the big 2-1 happens in April – that’s freakishly soon! We’ll see how things go. I like him a lot, love him even 🙂 and I think he’s the best!

God stuff – It’s been so incredibly different than last year. No more 3 days a week of constant classes of feeding on the ‘wow’ stuff. It’s been slower, taken different turns. It’s had it’s dull/low moments and dare I use the cliched ‘dry times’. It’s also been very rewarding in discovering how things work now that I don’t have that passive input. Journaling took a nose-dive (much to blame on blogging and RSI). Criticism skyrocketed and dipped and plateaued and soared yet again. Patterns of consistency in ‘discipline’ worked better in holidays and yet drew me (and still are) to question how I’m actually doing this thing best and how much time I squander.

What I’m doing about this: Continuing on in reading widely Christian theologians/authors to keep me inspired and fed in that way. Striving to be consistent in reading the Bible/prayer etc. Making time. Using mornings (which is a lot easier in Holidays) as my evenings are now more full.

Church: Well, one went bust so it was new church hunting. Wound up where it’s undoubtedly the church I ever been most at home in. Fantastic group of people. Involved in running youth group. Tend to struggle a bit with the ‘service’ part of it all. Strangely enough. Music/worship often feels flat and then occasionally just clicks – it’s been nice not to be driven mad by ‘showy’ up the front-ness (although hmm… last week felt like it was heading a tiny bit in that direction). Sermons as they do, vary but for the most part have had teachable/encouraging moments. There is a stronger emphasis on the Holy Spirit in this church which I think has been good for me.

What I’m doing about this: Continuing to be involved with the youth (which I really do love), continuing to think about and be a part of the community, hopefully getting to know some of the non-peer people in the church, thinking more about church planting and watching the place come under new-leadership and seeing it grow and be challenged!

Is there anything I’ve missed? And can you deduce my New Years Resolutions now?

2007 is looking up!

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